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The fertile void is the space between our old story before we have stepped into and claimed our new story. In the fertile void, we can often feel stuck and frustrated. What often keeps us stuck is trying too hard out of fear of never creating the life we want deep inside. Find out why self-help tools and techniques typically don’t work, and let Russell guide you upstream to your innate well-being and confidence to get unstuck and claim your life of possibility and purpose. Whether it’s creating the family you crave or the success you know you deserve, Russell will help you see how misunderstandings about the nature of thoughts and feelings mean we get in our own way from being who we want to be and creating what we want. Russell will help you change your relationship with your thoughts, feelings and sense of identity to help you know you are OK whether you feel OK or not and live the life true to yourself and not your habitual insecure thoughts. Get in touch: www.russell-davis.com
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Tuesday Aug 25, 2020
Tuesday Aug 25, 2020
This is not just for men experiencing infertility (whether their own or their partners) but also for women who may want to understand the fertility journey from a man’s perspective.
This is what I learned, what I wish I knew and what I am grateful for about our fertility journey and my experience of male infertility.
In this episode I share how I felt as a man with male infertility. My experience of supporting my wife when she had the fertility problems and the impact to our relationship. And what I wish I knew that would have made it all much easier.
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Friday Aug 21, 2020
Friday Aug 21, 2020
The Fertile Mind helps you let go of psychological blocks to getting pregnant. My wife and I had a 10-year fertility journey and have seen infertility from pretty much every angle.
Looking back we can see how much our mind and emotions played a role in the journey and if knew then what we know now it would not have been a 10-year journey.
I believe too many couples go through fertility treatment unnecessarily and the success rate of fertility treatment is unnecessarily low because the mind and emotions are not treated. This is also the experience of my clients.
I went on to retrain as a Coach and Cognitive Hypnotherapist and now help women and couples on their fertility journey to fast-track their journey to success.
Join me each week as I help you off the emotional rollercoaster and guide your mind and body to your fertility success.
To your success!
Loving you
Russellx
Tuesday Aug 18, 2020
Tuesday Aug 18, 2020
Usually one or the other person in a couple had the fertility ‘problem’ and often feels guilty as a result.
On our fertility journey I felt guilty that it was my fault my wife couldn’t be the mother she was born to be.
How do you stop thinking it’s your fault when it is clear it is your fertility problems preventing your partner being the parent they want to be?
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Tuesday Aug 11, 2020
Tuesday Aug 11, 2020
It is easy to feel angry at the injustice of life and infertility. Why should you have fertility problems?
It's OK to be angry.
In this episode I explore that anger, what’s behind it and how you can find more peace of mind despite the injustice of infertility.
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Tuesday Aug 04, 2020
Tuesday Aug 04, 2020
On our 10 year fertility journey my wife and I saw infertility from every angle! Female infertility, male infertility, unexplained infertility, an infertility diagnosis, secondary infertility...
So what's the ONE thing I wish I knew on our fertility journey? What's the one thing I believe would have meant it would not have been a 10-year journey?
The lowest point in our fertility journey, getting my test result when we thought we were on the home straight sent me into a psychological tailspin. It triggered an inner journey I wasn't expecting or planning. But it is that inner journey that was the difference that made the difference. It is the same with my clients.
In this episode find out more about what specifically I learnt on my journey that unlocked things for us. So many of my clients have the same insights that unlocks their ability to conceive in their life, whether it's the baby or the career they crave.
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Tuesday Jul 28, 2020
Tuesday Jul 28, 2020
Recorded at the start of the Covid19 pandemic lockdown this show explores the fear of not being in control.
Many of my clients have a fear of not being able to control their fertility or the outcome of treatment. In the past they’ve had a goal and worked hard to strive and achieve it. That approach doesn’t work for fertility. It’s not something you can control in the same way.
The feeling of not being control can be scary.
In this episode I explore what's behind the fear of not being in control and how we can feel secure even though we don’t have control.
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Monday Jul 20, 2020
Monday Jul 20, 2020
Infertility and fearful negative thinking often go hand in hand. How can you stop it impacting your fertility and chances of getting pregnant?
When I talk about 100% of our experience coming from Thought, when people start to see that, that it's an inside-out experience and not out-side in, a common question is 'how do I stop my negative/fearful/anxious thinking.
So how do you stop creating the experiences you don't want? How do you stop over-thinking or worrying on your fertility journey?
The thing is, you can't. It's not about controlling Thought because at the end of the day you can't control Thought. We are not thinking beings, we are beings that have Thought.
It's about understanding the true nature of Thought and when we see that, when we have a change of heart about Thought (and thus feelings) we have a different experience of them. We can allow the self correcting nature of Thought to kick in. That is, they pass on their own, they settle on their own. Fresh thought is always coming in when we allow it.
When we stop trying to change our Thought, or resent it, or wish we weren't having it, it moves on and settles all on it's own. Our mind is designed to settle in the same way our breath calms down when after we exert ourselves.
This leads to a place of peace without giving up on your fertility journey. It's also the place where the magic is more likely to happen!
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Monday Jul 13, 2020
Monday Jul 13, 2020
Let's face it, this fertility journey is tough. The level of grief and pain that so many couples experience with infertility and going through fertility treatment such as IVF is immense.
I think sometimes we fail to recognize the level of grief experienced on the journey.
Is it possible to go through infertility and not experience this depth of grief? What if it was? What if we could be aware of what's behind the grief and know it's not actually about whether we can get pregnant or not? What if we can connect to our innate resilience and well-being despite the circumstances of not being pregnant yet.
It is possible when we understand the nature of grief and emotions. When we realise our emotions are not caused by our infertility or childlessness even though it really does look and feel like it is.
In this episode I'll help you see through this illusion and connect to your innate resources and understanding that helps you let go of the pain and grief even ahead of getting pregnant.
It is possible to have a sense of peace without giving up trying to get pregnant.
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Wednesday Jul 08, 2020
Wednesday Jul 08, 2020
The fertility journey is often referred to as an emotional rollercoaster. It can feel scary how emotionally hijacked we can feel. How can you control them?
Our feelings can stop us being happy. Our feelings can stop us doing the things we want to do (fear of failure). Our feelings (e.g. stress) can cause physiological problems in our body. Sometimes we think we'd be much happier, more successful and more in control of our lives if it wasn't for our emotions such as fear, sadness, anger, anxiety, guilt...
Why do we get emotionally triggered in the way we do? Why do we feel emotionally hijacked and powerless to control our emotion when we see someone pregnant?
Find out what stop us being in control of our emotions, even on the fertility rollercoaster.
The more we understand the nature of an emotion the more we realise we've been approaching our emotions the wrong way. It's like we've been trying to pull a door open, working really hard to be more in control of how we feel, when the door pushes open!
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Monday Jun 29, 2020
Monday Jun 29, 2020
So often on our fertility journey, I felt like a victim. In fact, I wasn't aware how much in life as a whole I felt like a victim. I was angry with God/Life/The Universe as I felt our situation and a lot of things I'd experienced over my life were not fair.
I believe 100% of our experience of life comes from Thought. We live in the experience of our thinking. However, I was challenged recently to consider the possibility that we create more than that, that we create our circumstances.
I am not 100% sure we do, we don't create the weather. However, as I show in this episode trying it on for size was enlightening for me.
As a result, I feel more empowered as well and there are times in the past I would have still felt like a victim and now I can let that go. It reminded me of the insights I had on our own fertility journey that unlocked things for us and enabled us to have our baby against all odds.
We are far more powerful in creating our life more than we think. Even your fertility. In this episode, I share how that is.
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