The Fertile Mind with Russell Davis

Project You v Project Baby

The biggest cause of stress on the fertility journey is the fear of running out of time. The race against the body clock. 

This fear can lead us to doing so much to try and improve our fertility and chances of getting pregnant but often this is trying to deal with the symptoms and not the cause.  

In this episode we look further upstream from the symptoms and look at what may the be the cause of your difficulties in getting pregnant whether naturally or with IVF.

Get in touch:

www.thefertilemind.net

russell@thefertilemind.net

About the Show:

I help women and couples remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant. Based on my and my wife’s 10 year fertility journey and the work of my clients I believe too many couples have IVF unnecessarily and that the success rate of IVF is unnecessarily low. We can see how much our mind and emotions played a part in our fertility journey and when we found a place of peace without giving up that’s when the magic happened - we conceived naturally against all odds. I help me clients do the same - remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant naturally or getting the successful IVF outcome they so want. 

 

When I ask women what having a baby will give them they usually say a sense of completeness, love and purpose. It’s our fear of not having these things, a fear of not being enough, worthy that tends to be behind our fear of not having a baby. These limiting beliefs have usually been around since an early age and infertility shines a spotlight on them. Many of my clients have strived for success in their life whether career or other things. That approach doesn’t work for fertility. In fact it puts tension in the body which decreases their chances of success.

 

The podcast is short does of insight, giving women and couples new perspectives that allows them to see their fertility from the ‘inside-out’. To see help them let go of their insecure thoughts and feelings and connect to their innate wellbeing that knows they are enough and OK whatever happens. This moves having a baby from being a ’need’ to to a desire. It takes the pressure of the process and their mind and body relax into it’s natural flow state. Stress can impact the delicate balance of hormones required for a successful pregnancy.

How to stay strong on the fertility journey

How do we stay strong on this fertility journey? It can feel a real struggle at times when other people are getting pregnant, people say the most unhelpful comments, another failed pregnancy test or even Christmas and Mothers Day.

 

Most people underestimate the stress and distress infertility can bring. The first thing is to accept how tough it is and have radical self care. 

 

Another thing is understanding why we feel like we cannot cope. When we feel like we cannot cope we don't realise we are not being present and we are not connected to our innate wellbeing and amazing capabilities we have as a human being to deal with reality. 

 

In this episode we explore how you can be more connected to your resourcefulness and emotional resilience on this fertility journey.

Get in touch:

www.thefertilemind.net

russell@thefertilemind.net

About the Show:

I help women and couples remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant. Based on my and my wife’s 10 year fertility journey and the work of my clients I believe too many couples have IVF unnecessarily and that the success rate of IVF is unnecessarily low. We can see how much our mind and emotions played a part in our fertility journey and when we found a place of peace without giving up that’s when the magic happened - we conceived naturally against all odds. I help me clients do the same - remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant naturally or getting the successful IVF outcome they so want. 

 

When I ask women what having a baby will give them they usually say a sense of completeness, love and purpose. It’s our fear of not having these things, a fear of not being enough, worthy that tends to be behind our fear of not having a baby. These limiting beliefs have usually been around since an early age and infertility shines a spotlight on them. Many of my clients have strived for success in their life whether career or other things. That approach doesn’t work for fertility. In fact it puts tension in the body which decreases their chances of success.

 

The podcast is short does of insight, giving women and couples new perspectives that allows them to see their fertility from the ‘inside-out’. To see help them let go of their insecure thoughts and feelings and connect to their innate wellbeing that knows they are enough and OK whatever happens. This moves having a baby from being a ’need’ to to a desire. It takes the pressure of the process and their mind and body relax into it’s natural flow state. Stress can impact the delicate balance of hormones required for a successful pregnancy.

Want to take charge of your fertility?

On our fertility journey each morning I would take my pile of enormous pills praying it was making a difference. I had also changed all my underwear, stopped keeping my phone in my pocket, was having acupuncture but had no idea if all this effort was going to make a difference to my fertility. 

 

But I couldn’t not do it. 

 

I'd have done anything if I thought it might help. This is how our fertility and Project Baby can become all-consuming. 

 

In this episode we look at how why we don’t feel in control of our fertility and what we can do about that. 

Get in touch:

www.thefertilemind.net

russell@thefertilemind.net

About the Show:

I help women and couples remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant. Based on my and my wife’s 10 year fertility journey and the work of my clients I believe too many couples have IVF unnecessarily and that the success rate of IVF is unnecessarily low. We can see how much our mind and emotions played a part in our fertility journey and when we found a place of peace without giving up that’s when the magic happened - we conceived naturally against all odds. I help me clients do the same - remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant naturally or getting the successful IVF outcome they so want. 

 

When I ask women what having a baby will give them they usually say a sense of completeness, love and purpose. It’s our fear of not having these things, a fear of not being enough, worthy that tends to be behind our fear of not having a baby. These limiting beliefs have usually been around since an early age and infertility shines a spotlight on them. Many of my clients have strived for success in their life whether career or other things. That approach doesn’t work for fertility. In fact it puts tension in the body which decreases their chances of success.

 

The podcast is short does of insight, giving women and couples new perspectives that allows them to see their fertility from the ‘inside-out’. To see help them let go of their insecure thoughts and feelings and connect to their innate wellbeing that knows they are enough and OK whatever happens. This moves having a baby from being a ’need’ to to a desire. It takes the pressure of the process and their mind and body relax into it’s natural flow state. Stress can impact the delicate balance of hormones required for a successful pregnancy.

Are you ever going to get pregnant?

One of the biggest sources of stress on this fertility journey is the fear of running out of time. Time and the chances of success slipping away. Michelle began working with me after three failed IVFs. She was 39 and felt incredible pressure to dive straight into her fourth IVF before the big 4-0. Psychologically it’s like 40 is the end. Why is this? Yes, fertility degrades over time but it doesn’t drop like a brick on your 40th birthday. 

 

The expectation that it’s just not going to happen after 40 creates so much pressure and stress, what do you think happens? It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy.

 

Expectations are toxic. They create self-fulfilling prophecies. They stop us from experiencing the possibility and wonder of life. 

 

In this episode we look how you can let go of this fear of running out of time.

Get in touch:

www.thefertilemind.net

russell@thefertilemind.net

About the Show:

I help women and couples remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant. Based on my and my wife’s 10 year fertility journey and the work of my clients I believe too many couples have IVF unnecessarily and that the success rate of IVF is unnecessarily low. We can see how much our mind and emotions played a part in our fertility journey and when we found a place of peace without giving up that’s when the magic happened - we conceived naturally against all odds. I help me clients do the same - remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant naturally or getting the successful IVF outcome they so want. 

 

When I ask women what having a baby will give them they usually say a sense of completeness, love and purpose. It’s our fear of not having these things, a fear of not being enough, worthy that tends to be behind our fear of not having a baby. These limiting beliefs have usually been around since an early age and infertility shines a spotlight on them. Many of my clients have strived for success in their life whether career or other things. That approach doesn’t work for fertility. In fact it puts tension in the body which decreases their chances of success.

 

The podcast is short does of insight, giving women and couples new perspectives that allows them to see their fertility from the ‘inside-out’. To see help them let go of their insecure thoughts and feelings and connect to their innate wellbeing that knows they are enough and OK whatever happens. This moves having a baby from being a ’need’ to to a desire. It takes the pressure of the process and their mind and body relax into it’s natural flow state. Stress can impact the delicate balance of hormones required for a successful pregnancy.

What is your fertility telling you?

The emotional rollercoaster of fertility is an amplifier of fearful and insecure beliefs that you've had running in the background of your life for some time. This is why I am so thankful for my fertility journey. Not the 10 years of pain and heartache, but what I learned about myself at the lowest point when I did my own 'Project You' journey.

This resulted in me being far happier in myself, I stopped people-pleasing and knew I was OK for who I was - even before we got pregnant with our son. 

What if this were true for you? What if this journey was amplifying existing limiting thoughts and beliefs that were preventing you from feeling complete, content and know the true worth of who you are in this moment?

What is your fertility telling you that might not only the gift for you in this journey but also the very thing that unlocks your ability to get pregnant. 

Get in touch:

www.thefertilemind.net

russell@thefertilemind.net

About the Show:

I help women and couples remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant. Based on my and my wife’s 10 year fertility journey and the work of my clients I believe too many couples have IVF unnecessarily and that the success rate of IVF is unnecessarily low. We can see how much our mind and emotions played a part in our fertility journey and when we found a place of peace without giving up that’s when the magic happened - we conceived naturally against all odds. I help me clients do the same - remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant naturally or getting the successful IVF outcome they so want. 

 

When I ask women what having a baby will give them they usually say a sense of completeness, love and purpose. It’s our fear of not having these things, a fear of not being enough, worthy that tends to be behind our fear of not having a baby. These limiting beliefs have usually been around since an early age and infertility shines a spotlight on them. Many of my clients have strived for success in their life whether career or other things. That approach doesn’t work for fertility. In fact it puts tension in the body which decreases their chances of success.

 

The podcast is short does of insight, giving women and couples new perspectives that allows them to see their fertility from the ‘inside-out’. To see help them let go of their insecure thoughts and feelings and connect to their innate wellbeing that knows they are enough and OK whatever happens. This moves having a baby from being a ’need’ to to a desire. It takes the pressure of the process and their mind and body relax into it’s natural flow state. Stress can impact the delicate balance of hormones required for a successful pregnancy.

TTC After miscarriage

Any insecurity in our mind hates the unknown. Another part of our mind doesn’t like the idea of us being disappointed, let alone devastated, so doesn’t want you to get your hopes up. 

These fears lead to your mind coming up with all the ‘evidence’ as to why you

Like many aspects of the fertility journey, I think the depth of emotional distress often experienced with miscarriage is not really acknowledged by people who've not experienced it. 

There is grief. Grieving the loss of the baby you were so emotionally connected to from day one. 

There can be guilt and blame. Perhaps blaming yourself for not doing the right thing thinking that has impacted your fertility or ability to hold down a healthy pregnancy. 

Then there is the fear of it happening again. This is often the most significant. You move past the grief but the fear lingers on and doesn't seem to pass. 

In this episode we explore how you can let go of that fear and other emotions to continue your fertility journey with more peace and hope. 

Get in touch:

www.thefertilemind.net

russell@thefertilemind.net

About the Show:

I help women and couples remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant. Based on my and my wife’s 10 year fertility journey and the work of my clients I believe too many couples have IVF unnecessarily and that the success rate of IVF is unnecessarily low. We can see how much our mind and emotions played a part in our fertility journey and when we found a place of peace without giving up that’s when the magic happened - we conceived naturally against all odds. I help me clients do the same - remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant naturally or getting the successful IVF outcome they so want. 

 

When I ask women what having a baby will give them they usually say a sense of completeness, love and purpose. It’s our fear of not having these things, a fear of not being enough, worthy that tends to be behind our fear of not having a baby. These limiting beliefs have usually been around since an early age and infertility shines a spotlight on them. Many of my clients have strived for success in their life whether career or other things. That approach doesn’t work for fertility. In fact it puts tension in the body which decreases their chances of success.

 

The podcast is short does of insight, giving women and couples new perspectives that allows them to see their fertility from the ‘inside-out’. To see help them let go of their insecure thoughts and feelings and connect to their innate wellbeing that knows they are enough and OK whatever happens. This moves having a baby from being a ’need’ to to a desire. It takes the pressure of the process and their mind and body relax into it’s natural flow state. Stress can impact the delicate balance of hormones required for a successful pregnancy.

Infertility & Intimacy

Any insecurity in our mind hates the unknown. Another part of our mind doesn’t like the idea of us being disappointed, let alone devastated, so doesn’t want you to get your hopes up. 

These fears lead to your mind coming up with all the ‘evidence’ as to why you

How had we come to this? The fertility roller-coaster and Project Baby taking over our lives can be such a passion killer! It felt like we were friends, not lovers. We knew we loved each other didn't feel particularly loved. We felt like married singles. 

Find out how you can re-create the intimacy and passion on your fertility journey?

Get in touch:

www.thefertilemind.net

russell@thefertilemind.net

About the Show:

I help women and couples remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant. Based on my and my wife’s 10 year fertility journey and the work of my clients I believe too many couples have IVF unnecessarily and that the success rate of IVF is unnecessarily low. We can see how much our mind and emotions played a part in our fertility journey and when we found a place of peace without giving up that’s when the magic happened - we conceived naturally against all odds. I help me clients do the same - remove psychological blocks to getting pregnant naturally or getting the successful IVF outcome they so want. 

 

When I ask women what having a baby will give them they usually say a sense of completeness, love and purpose. It’s our fear of not having these things, a fear of not being enough, worthy that tends to be behind our fear of not having a baby. These limiting beliefs have usually been around since an early age and infertility shines a spotlight on them. Many of my clients have strived for success in their life whether career or other things. That approach doesn’t work for fertility. In fact it puts tension in the body which decreases their chances of success.

 

The podcast is short does of insight, giving women and couples new perspectives that allows them to see their fertility from the ‘inside-out’. To see help them let go of their insecure thoughts and feelings and connect to their innate wellbeing that knows they are enough and OK whatever happens. This moves having a baby from being a ’need’ to to a desire. It takes the pressure of the process and their mind and body relax into it’s natural flow state. Stress can impact the delicate balance of hormones required for a successful pregnancy.

Surviving the Two Week Wait

Whether you are having IVF/ICSI/donor treatment or trying naturally, the dreaded 2WW is always the hardest part of the process.

 

Any insecurity in our mind hates the unknown. Another part of our mind doesn’t like the idea of us being disappointed, let alone devastated, so doesn’t want you to get your hopes up. 

These fears lead to your mind coming up with all the ‘evidence’ as to why you won't be successful or why you shouldn’t get your hopes up. The truth is, it’s unknown. Nothing can predict the outcome, not even your thinking, no matter how plausible it may be. 

In this episode a share a three-step approach to help you survive and even thrive in the 2WW. 

Get in touch:

www.thefertilemind.net

russell@thefertilemind.net

The gift in the pain of infertility

This fertility journey so so tough, I wanted to give you a message from the other side. Don't worry I'm still alive and well, I mean the other side of the fertility journey! It's what I want you to know in your darkest times. 

I can look back on our 10 year fertility journey and actually be thankful for what I learned about myself and life. In this episode I share some of these gifts and what I want you to know in your darkest times on your own fertility journey. 

Get in touch:

www.thefertilemind.net

russell@thefertilemind.net

Don’t let infertility rob you of your femininity

The fertility journey can rob you of your femininity as a woman (and masculinity as a man but this episode is for the women). 

My wish for you to know you are the powerful, beautiful, sassy, creative, sexy, nurturing feminine energy you are. 

Society doesn't value feminine energy. Men often don't understand it and are often scared of it. This can leave women feeling disempowered, misunderstood and feeling wrong for feeling how they feel. 

It's time women were empowered to be fully feminine. Yes at times they will want/need to be in their masculine, but it's time we valued and appreciated feminine energy, we need more of it in society to bring more balance.

Get in touch:

www.thefertilemind.net

russell@thefertilemind.net